Sometimes it feels like life is just happening to you.

And when your plate is overflowing with work, kids, running a household, your endless to-do list, and the challenges of just plain adulting, it’s no wonder that things sometimes fall through the cracks.

But you’re realizing that your relationship is one of the things falling through the cracks.

Lately, your conversations are logistical, not meaningful. (“You’re picking up the kids at 3, right?”) The only “quality time” you’ve gotten has been endlessly scrolling through Netflix, unable to agree on what to watch. And sex? Let’s just say you cringe when you try to think of the last time you guys were intimate.

When you really stop to think about it, it feels pretty awful. And lonely.

When life feels overwhelming, your partner is exactly who you need in your corner, supporting and loving you through it all. Keeping you centered. Telling those corny jokes that make you laugh. And holding your hand as you face the ups and the downs together.

So, how do you get back to prioritizing your relationship when your lives are already overbooked with responsibilities and obligations?

The good news is that we have an answer for you…
It’s a therapist-created, research-backed adventure that has helped thousands of couples fall back in love.

We know — from personal experience — how scary it can feel when you realize just how disconnected you’ve become. And we also know that figuring out how to reconnect feels pretty damn daunting. How do you rebuild emotional connection and intimacy? It’s not like anyone ever teaches us how to do this, right? 

We drew from Vanessa’s years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, our own personal experiences in couples therapy, and the latest research on love and relationships, to give you a straightforward and FUN path back to the madly-in-love couple you once were.

Every day for 30 days you’ll get an email from us with two challenge options:

  •  The Communication Activity poses a thought-provoking question or discussion prompt that ranges from flirty and fun to deep and meaningful. No more generic exchanges about work and weather! Remember when you’d spend hours talking and laughing about everything under the sun? These conversations offer a roadmap to get you back to that feeling. 

  • The Action Activity is a short, playful activity you and your partner complete together. These fun and simple tasks will bring you closer and shake up your usual routine of mindless TV watching as “quality time.”

This is a Choose Your Own Adventure challenge — pick whichever option you’re most excited about. Or do both!

No more wondering what to do — the challenge takes all the guesswork out of getting closer again.

Don’t worry, these aren’t epic tasks that will take days to plan or hours to tackle. Designed with busy lifestyles in mind, they’re quick but effective at opening the door to talking, sharing, and connecting again. 

Each activity takes 5 to 10 minutes—MAX.

They don’t require any additional purchases, and they can all be done in the comfort of your own home.

And — surprise! — the activities are actually tools, tips, and techniques in disguise! Each one is designed using Vanessa’s experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist to help you and your partner bring more intimacy, communication, and connection into your relationship.

The Connection Challenge is so effective because it doesn’t feel like you’re “working” on your relationship. You’re just having fun together again!

And they’ll remind you why the two of you are so GOOD together. Before you know it, you’ll both be looking forward to your challenge time together each day!

If Vanessa was still taking on clients, and you wanted to book a session with her to discuss rebuilding your connection, you'd be looking at shelling out $750 for the first session. Realistically, there's no way she could cram 30 days' worth of ideas and activities into just one session, so you’d be spending in the 4-figures range.

But what if you only had to pay a fraction of that and get the same results?

Part of the reason we created The Connection Challenge is because Vanessa’s practice was booked out for months, and we wanted to give couples a much, much more affordable way to access all of her tips and techniques.

 So we’ve made The Connection Challenge available to you for just $139!

That’s about the price of a cup of coffee a day. Your relationship deserves at least as much as your latte obsession, doesn’t it?
Get the closeness you’re craving in just 10 minutes a day.
All you have to do is check your email!

(Try it risk-free for five days.)

30 days of therapist-created, intimacy-enhancing activities delivered straight to your inbox. You get 2 activities per day: a Communication Activity and an Action Activity. You can do one or do both… It's your choice!

Easy adventures you can complete in 5-10 minutes a day. They’re designed to fit into your busy lifestyle.​​ They don’t require any additional purchases, and can all be done from the comfort of your own home.

A go-at-your-own-pace approach to reigniting the spark. The challenge is flexible. You can pause it at any time. If life gets busy, you can take a break and jump back in when you’re ready. Or do the challenges every other day or once a week, depending on what works for your schedule.

A downloadable journal and workbook — Keep it as a memento from this special time you spent nurturing and growing your relationship.

Lifetime access to the challenge.

Try it risk-free for 5 days!— Give The Connection Challenge a try. If you decide it’s not for you, just send us an email and we’ll give you a full refund. There’s no risk, so why not take the challenge for a spin?!

The Connection Challenge is designed for busy couples of all genders and orientations. It’s about rebuilding the emotional connection we ALL crave and deserve.
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No matter what your situation is, The Connection Challenge can help your relationship grow stronger, one day at a time!

(Try it risk-free for five days.)

  • We’re really busy. How much time will it take?
    The Connection Challenge was designed specifically for busy couples. Each challenge takes 5 to 10 minutes, max!
  • What if we already know we can’t do it every day?
    The challenge is super flexible. You can do a challenge whenever you have the time, whether that’s every other day or once a week.

    Just save the daily emails, and open one whenever you’re ready.
  • What if we get busy and miss a day or two?
    No worries! We give you the capability to pause the challenge and pick it back up whenever you’re ready.

    The point is to make prioritizing your relationship life feel fun, exciting, and doable — because it should be.
  • Can I give this challenge to my partner as a gift?
    Absolutely! The Connection Challenge is a fantastic anniversary, birthday, or “just because” gift!

    If you want to wait to start the challenge until a specific date, immediately hit the “pause” button in your confirmation email!

    If you enter your partner’s email at checkout, hitting the “pause” button in your confirmation email keeps them from getting ANYTHING. They won’t receive ANY emails until you “unpause” (you’ll receive an additional email with an “unpause” link once you’ve paused). Once unpaused, you’ll both receive the Day 1 email within about 15 minutes (and yes, that will be the very first email your partner will receive).

    If you don’t enter your partner’s email at checkout, still hit the “pause” button in your confirmation email. If you’d like your partner to receive the challenge emails as well and you want to start on a specific date, please email us (you can just reply to your confirmation email). We will need your partner’s email address and the date you’d like the challenge to start and we will manually get your partner added as well as unpause you on the correct date.

    If you want to be the only one receiving the challenge, then all you have to do is use your “unpause” link and get going when you’re ready (you’ll receive an additional email with an “unpause” link once you’ve paused)!

    Want a cute gift certificate to give along with your gift? Respond to your confirmation email and let us know, and we’ll send you a link with festive gift certificate options you can give to your partner!
  • Can you give an example of a challenge?
    Half of the fun of the challenge is not knowing what you're going to be doing that day, so we don't give away examples because we don't want to ruin the surprise!

    Instead, we do something better: we offer a five-day money-back guarantee. You can try the challenge for five whole days to make sure you love it. If you're not having fun and feeling more connected after five days, we'll refund you every penny — no questions asked.
  • Is this a sex challenge?
    Nope, not a sex challenge! You do every single activity with your clothes on (unless you don’t want to).

    If you’ve been wanting to strengthen your relationship but have been feeling shy about our more explicit offers, this is a great first step!

    Talking about sex in an easygoing way is a very small part of the challenge, but it’s mostly about having conversations that bring you closer together. (Fair warning: you may find yourself wanting to have more physical intimacy as a side effect of feeling super connected!)
  • Is the challenge only for straight couples?
    No. The Connection Challenge is inclusive, and designed to reignite a spark for couples of all genders and orientations.
  • Can we do the challenge if we’re long-distance?
    Yes! Schedule a regular FaceTime date and use the challenge to bond when you can’t be together physically. If you’re a military couple or juggling different time zones, you can each keep a journal and review the challenges when you’re able to connect.
Are you ready to remember all the reasons you fell in love?

Join The Connection Challenge now for just $139.

(Try it risk-free for five days.)

We’ve been in this business long enough to know that the average couple reading over this page will think to themselves, “This sounds great, but we’ll do it another time, when things are less busy.” 

But let’s be honest… life has always been busy. You’ve never had a time where you’ve said to each other, “Hey, we have tons of free time! What should we do with it?” 

There’s a reason you started scrolling this page in the first place. 

You’re feeling disconnected, and you already know that waiting for things to magically change on their own is only creating more disconnection. You’re only digging yourselves into a deeper and deeper hole that’s going to be harder and harder to crawl out of. 

We know it’s so easy to get swept up in the busyness of your day-to-day life. Before you know it, another year has gone by and you’re feeling more disconnected than ever. 

That’s why we want to invite you to be one of the extraordinary couples who are willing to take action now. 

Show yourself and your partner that your relationship is important, and that you’re willing to devote just a few minutes a day to feel like a true team.
Join The Connection Challenge and start rediscovering the magic of your relationship, one challenge at a time!

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