Because parents deserve playtime too!
Get the deep, exciting, distraction-free connection you’ve been missing —
with this therapist-created course for busy parents.

As a parent, you have more items on your to-do list than there are minutes in the day.

All the kids’ doctor appointments, soccer games, bake sales, and piano lessons. All the household tasks — grocery shopping, loading and unloading the dishwasher, straightening up a room only to blink and have it be destroyed again, and endless loads of laundry (seriously, where does all that laundry come from??!).

It can make you feel trapped in a whirlwind of overwhelm and busyness that seems like it won’t end until the last kid leaves the house (another 15 years?!).

You’re not alone! 

When we polled parents, 90% of them said their relationship got harder, and 91% of them said their sex life suffered after kids.

When you hardly get a moment to yourself, you’re left feeling like a parent first, a partner a distant second, and a person dead last.

So when it comes to connection… you and your partner operate more like roommates or business partners.

99.9% of the time you spend together is with the kids, coordinating the kids’ schedules, or talking about… the kids!
Research shows the average couple with kids spends only 35 minutes per week having face-to-face conversations with each other, and even then, they’re still talking about the kids.

When you have tiny humans literally relying on you for survival, quality time together falls way down the priority list.

In those rare moments of quiet, it feels easier to just curl up with Netflix than it is to get intimate with your partner.

From time to time, you catch yourself thinking back to all that chemistry you used to have. How much easier sex used to feel.

But now? Sex feels like so much work. The kids have to be fed and bathed and tucked in and sleeping soundly, the house has to be clean, you have to be showered, you have to be in a good mood, you have to feel at least remotely connected to each other… basically the stars have to be in perfect alignment.

And even then… sex still doesn’t feel the way it used to.

If your heart is starting to sink into your stomach as you read this, take a deep breath… 

It doesn’t have to be this way! 

That’s why we created Rediscovering Us: Intimacy And Sex For Parents.

We know you love your partner. We know you want intimacy to feel so much better and easier. 

So we’re here to show you how, with a simple, packed-schedule-friendly, therapist-created guide for rekindling the connection and intimacy in your relationship!

Reignite the bond that brought you together by getting on the same page emotionally and sexually. This course offers the support you need to become a team and enjoy time together again. Because a wink here and a lingering kiss there go a long way in making life more fun.

Prioritize yourselves, even if it’s just a few minutes at a time. When parents take time to nurture their relationship, the whole family wins.

Add quality (kid-free) time for connection into the fabric of your hectic schedule without having to completely rearrange your weekly whiteboard.

Maintain your connection. Finally feel like that unstoppable, head-over-heels-in-love team you are — for decades to come. No matter what life throws your way, you’ll always have the data-backed resources you need to feel understood, connected, and desired.

Keeping the spark alive as parents feels hard because it is hard. If this was easy, you’d already be doing it!

But we can show you the way!

When you’re busy and overwhelmed, it’s easy to write off sex like the other pleasures you no longer have time for — as if it were a day at the spa.

But sex is SO much more than that!

Physical intimacy goes hand in hand with emotional connection. When you're in a good place sexually, everything else in life just works, and vice versa.

Life takes on a sense of ease. You feel energized instead of drained, there’s laughter instead of tension. You think, “OH! This is what relationships are supposed to feel like!”

And it goes even deeper than that…
To a lot of parents, sex just doesn’t seem that important when you have so much else on your plate. It’s easy for “parent guilt” to creep in whenever you think of doing something other than focusing 100% on your kids.

But here’s the thing… working on your intimacy will have a HUGE impact on your kids.

You already know your kids pick up on the smallest cues from you. They see everything you do. They notice moments of tension and resentment between their parents.

So modeling a confident, affectionate, loving relationship matters. 

It breaks the generational cycle of shame and embarrassment around sex, and sets your kids up to create healthy relationships when they become adults!

(Just take a moment to imagine how different your childhood would have been if your parents had the tools we share in this course…)

The effort you put into your intimate life isn’t “selfish” or “unnecessary.” It impacts your whole family dynamic, and your children’s future.

When you prioritize your romance and intimacy, your kids get a healthy example of love that will stay with them throughout their lifetime.

And what better gift could you give to your child than that?

We know your time is precious, which is why Rediscovering Us is specifically designed for busy parents.

Each lesson takes just a few minutes, and is filled with quick bites of the latest research and no-brainer activities that show you how to feel sexy as a parent!
Here’s exactly what we’ll cover, together:

Lesson 1: Become a team. We’ll teach you a technique that is free, easy, and takes just a few seconds, but has been shown to be the #1 predictor of marital success!

Lesson 2: Bring the focus back to your relationship, because you’ve experienced a massive identity shift in becoming parents. Now, you need intentional ways of transitioning from parents to partners so you can keep showing up for each other.

Lesson 3: Approach self-care like a team with easy ways to support one another and enjoy some much-needed time to recharge. Plus, self-care is a proven libido-booster!

Lesson 4: Celebrate the way your connection grows through pregnancy and childbirth. Your body might feel completely foreign to you, and sex acts you used to love feel different now. But after discovering what your body is craving in this season of life, you’ll unlock more pleasure than ever before.

Lesson 5: Develop your new Mental Load game plan so you can nip resentment in the bud and eliminate arguments that start with that innocent yet infuriating comment: "Just tell me how I can help!"

Lesson 6: Overcome feeling “touched out” from your kids grabbing at you all day. Understand why you find yourself recoiling when your partner attempts a physical connection. And find ways to recharge and regulate your senses so you have the capacity for intimate touch again.

Lesson 7: Build more privacy into your lives with research-backed and parent-approved tips for getting more alone time.

Lesson 8: Model healthy, affectionate relationships for the kids. This is the key to ending the generational cycle of sexual shame, and enabling your kids to seek out loving, and sustainable relationships for themselves. Plus, nothing feels better than watching your parents cherish each other decade after decade.

Lesson 9: Create time for intimacy. We know it might feel impossible right now, but we have some tried-and-tested tricks up our sleeves!

Just to give you some perspective… If you wanted to do a private couples therapy session with Vanessa, first of all you’d be out of luck because she’s not taking new clients. 

But if she was, you’d be looking at $750 for the first session — and there’s no way you could get through all the information and activities included in Rediscovering Us into just one session. You’d be looking at multiple hours of your time, and a four-figure price tag. 

And while we know you’d feel like it was worth every penny, we know that’s a huge number for most people. 

Part of the reason why we created Rediscovering Us is so we could make Vanessa’s techniques much more accessible and affordable at just $199.

So you can snag this life-changing workshop for just a fraction of what couples therapy would cost you!

We’re also offering you a money-back guarantee, so you can try Rediscovering Us risk-free. If you decide it’s not for you within 3 days of purchase, we’ll give you your money back — no questions asked.

Your Rediscovering Us questions — answered!

  • How does it work?
    Once you join, you’ll get instant access to the video lessons and downloadable workbook.

    The course has quick (we’re talking just a few minutes each), 100% parent-focused lessons to help you rediscover your love for each other and finally get back on the same team as a couple (and build real, meaningful ways to prioritize your partnership just as much as you prioritize your roles as parents!).

    The workbook acts as a guide to help you process new discoveries together and implement everything you’ve learned in ways that feel gooood. And sustainable. For both of you.
  • How much time will it take?
    Each lesson in the course takes less than 10 minutes! You’re free to go at your own pace and hit pause whenever you need to.

    The goal of this course is to bring ease back into your relationship dynamic. We know your time is precious, so we’ve distilled our best tips for parents into quick lessons you can sneak in, even at the end of a long day.
  • Do we lose access at some point?
    Never! Joining Rediscovering Us gives you lifetime access to our best resources and tips for parents, all in a concise and value-packed online course format. So you can dive in at any time without ever wondering how to get out of the inevitable romantic rut again.
  • Does the course require us to have sex?
    Nope! This course focuses on navigating and removing blockages that are limiting your relationship. So if you’re still in the tender post-partum phase, you can rest easy knowing that nothing is required of your body.

    Looking to pick up a few new techniques? You’ll find the spicy stuff inside our Ultimate Foreplay Guides and Next Level Intercourse.
  • Do you offer refunds?
    We are offering a 3-day money-back guarantee, so you can try Rediscovering Us risk-free! If you decide that the program is not for you within those 72 hours, we’ll give you your money back — no questions asked.
  • Is it inclusive?
    Yes! This course is for parents of all genders and orientations.
  • But, you guys don’t have kids… right?
    Vanessa here to answer! Xander and I aren’t parents ourselves. So why did we make a course for parents? Because I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Master’s degree in psychology. A huge part of my educational and clinical training was with kids and families. I’ve worked with thousands of families, and have had the opportunity to test and refine all of my strategies.

    We were also excited to create this course because part of our mission is to support families and to stop the generational shame cycle around sex.

    Think of me like a pediatrician without kids, a pharmacist who hasn’t taken the medication you’ve been prescribed, or a sports psychologist who isn’t a professional athlete.

    If you’re the kind of person who wants the professionals that you work with to have had the same direct experience you have, that’s your right, and we respect that! This just won’t be the right course for you.
  • Can we take this before we become parents?
    Absolutely! In fact, we highly suggest you do! It’s great to know ahead of time what kinds of challenges come up for parents. Get prepared now, and the transition to parenthood won’t rattle your foundation the way it does for most couples.

You can deepen your bond, no matter what life throws at you.

Whether you have a treacherous toddler determined to turn the walls into their own private art gallery, or an angsty teen who loves giving you the silent treatment, you’ll always know you and your partner have each other’s backs.

It’s the little moments of connection — a quick cuddle at the end of the day, holding hands at the soccer game, a sly smile over breakfast — that keep your bond strong.

You deserve a passionate relationship and a deep, fulfilling connection, even during life’s most challenging seasons.

Now’s the time to get back on the same team — in the bedroom, and in life.

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