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Get the intimacy you’ve always wanted — in just 10 minutes a day!

This Valentine’s Day, why not spend a whole month celebrating each other instead of just one day?!

Sometimes it feels like life is just happening to you. 

And when your plate is overflowing with work, kids, running a household, your endless to-do list, and the challenges of just plain adulting, it’s no wonder that things sometimes fall through the cracks. 

But you’re realizing that your relationship is one of the things falling through the cracks. 

Lately, your conversations are logistical, not meaningful. (“You’re picking up the kids at 3, right?”) The only “quality time” you’ve gotten has been endlessly scrolling through Netflix, unable to agree on what to watch. And sex? Let’s just say you cringe when you try to think of the last time you guys were intimate. 

When you really stop to think about it, it feels pretty awful. And lonely. When life feels overwhelming, your partner is exactly who you need in your corner, supporting and loving you through it all. Keeping you centered. Telling those corny jokes that make you laugh. And holding your hand as you face the ups and the downs together. 

So, how do you get back to prioritizing your relationship when your lives are already overbooked with responsibilities and obligations? 

First of all — no shame! We’ve been there ourselves. 

Like so many couples, things were hot and heavy when we first met. But as the newness faded, our emotional connection started to flag, and sex started to become more routine — and less frequent. 

It’s actually kinda scary to realize how easy it is to slide into a disconnected rut in your relationship. 

A rut that leaves you wondering, “What the heck happened to us?! What happened to that couple that could stay up all night talking and couldn’t keep their hands off of each other?!” 

The good news is that we have the solution for you…

If you’re like most couples, you want to feel closer and more connected to each other. But you don’t exactly know how to make that happen… 

You know you should be having more exciting date nights and trying new things in bed. But constantly having to invent new ways to spice up your relationship takes a lot of brain power. (Just coming up with what to have for dinner every night is exhausting!) 

That’s exactly why we created our Sweet or Spicy Valentine’s Day event — to take all the guesswork out of getting closer again. 

We’ve done all the work for you! 

We drew from Vanessa’s years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, our own personal experiences in couples therapy, and the latest research on love and relationships, to come up with the best “bang for your buck” ideas. We tested and refined our ideas with thousands of couples, and we turned them into a fun and unique adventure, designed to get you back to the madly-in-love couple you once were. 

All you have to do is check your email!

(Try it risk-free through February 19th!)

Designed with busy lifestyles in mind, the challenges are quick but wildly effective. 

Don’t worry, unlike other challenges out there, our activities aren’t epic tasks that will take days to plan or hours to tackle, and they don’t require any additional purchases.
Why Now?
For most couples, Valentine’s Day often feels like a disaster. 

The pressure to have the perfect evening is intense! You can’t help but compare when you see all the over-the-top social posts your friends make. But restaurants are overcrowded and overpriced, the typical Valentine’s Day gifts are cheesy, and you usually wind up feeling let down. 

And then, just like that, the night is over. You go to sleep feeling the same way you did yesterday and the day before. And you wake up feeling just as disconnected and misunderstood. 

You don’t deserve to experience a Valentine’s Day that leaves you feeling bored, alone, or anxious. 

We’re determined to give you a completely different experience with your new Sweet or Spicy relationship ritual!

(Try it risk-free through February 19th!)

How It Works
All you need to do is decide whether to go sweet with The Connection Challenge or spicy with The Sex Challenge!
Go sweet with The Connection Challenge if you're looking for more emotional intimacy.
This challenge is designed to help you and your partner fall in love all over again. Giggling in each other’s arms, creating new inside jokes that confuse everyone else but never fail to crack the two of you up, and feeling more deeply cherished than ever before. 

Every day for 30 days you’ll get:

A Communication Activity — a thought-provoking question or discussion prompt that ranges from flirty and fun to deep and meaningful.

An Action Activity — a short, playful activity you and your partner complete together.

There’s no sex involved. (But don’t be surprised if suddenly you start having WAY more of it!)
Go spicy with The Sex Challenge if you're looking for more physical intimacy.
This challenge is designed to bring the passion back into your relationship. Mid-day texts that say “I can’t stop thinking about last night”, flirtatious stares that make you blush from across the room, and that honeymoon phase energy you remember from your first few months of dating. 

Every day for 30 days you’ll get:

A Sensual Activity — an activity that’s based around communication, touch, or foreplay (because sometimes the hottest moments happen with your clothes on!).

A Sexual Activity — a spicy, R-rated assignment. (But it’s not just intercourse!)

The Sex Challenge makes it easy to break out of a rut, try new techniques you never would have thought of on your own, and boost your confidence inside and outside the bedroom.
Our recommendation? Do both!
When you sign up for both challenges, our typical recommendation is to start with The Connection Challenge (but we give you the option to do whatever you want!).

You’ll experience the most powerful and longest-lasting impact on your relationship — and the biggest savings (40% in savings, to be exact)!
If Vanessa was still taking on clients, and you wanted to book a session with her to discuss rebuilding your connection or falling back in love with your sex life, you'd be looking at shelling out $750 for the first session. Realistically, there's no way she could cram 30 days' worth of ideas and activities into just one session, so you’d be spending in the 4-figures range. We feel confident you’d feel like it was worth every penny, but we still appreciate that’s a huge number for most people. 

But what if you only had to pay a fraction of that and get the same results? 

Part of the reason we created The Connection Challenge and The Sex Challenge is that Vanessa’s practice was booked out for months, and we wanted to give couples a much, much more affordable way to access all of her tips and techniques.

But we’re doing something even more special this year…

In honor of Vanessa’s 40th birthday on February 13th, we’re offering a 
never-before-seen discount of 40% off both challenges!

Get BOTH Sweet and Spicy for the special price of $278 $169!

OR you can get either challenge for $40 off! (Just $139 $99!)

(Try it risk-free through February 19th!)

What You Get When You Join

30 days of emails with two activity options per day The Connection Challenge takers will get to choose between a Communication and an Action Activity. The Sex Challenge will have the option of a Sensual and a Sexual Activity.

Simple, totally doable challenges that only take between 5-20 minutes to complete, don’t require any special props or additional purchases, and gently nudge you out of your comfort zone.

The ability to start and pause at any time — don’t worry about falling behind or getting too busy. You can go at your own pace, and if you need a break it’s as easy as clicking a button!

The option to take both challenges for an extra special price! We're talking never-before-seen discounts this year!

Lifetime access to your challenge(s) — take it again whenever you need a relationship reboot. 

Try it risk-free for 5 days! No questions asked refund policy if you decide the challenge isn't for you by February 19th. We think you should have the freedom to lean into your curiosity about the challenges — stress-free. So, give the challenges a shot, and if you’re not loving them, we’ll give you every penny back.

(Try it risk-free through February 19th!)

Who It's For
Maybe you’re a parent craving that before-kids spark?
Maybe you’ve been feeling more like roommates than romantic partners?
Maybe you think things are good enough as-is?
Maybe you’re trying to get out of a dry spell?
Or hey… maybe you (or your partner) are feeling skeptical about the challenges?

(Try it risk-free through February 19th!)

  • Do we have to do this every day?

    You can work through the challenge at a different pace if you’d like. Plenty of couples choose to do it every other day, or once a week. It’s completely up to you! Just save the emails, and open one whenever you’re ready to reconnect.
  • What if now’s not a great time for us to start?
    No problem! As soon as you sign up, you have the option to pause your challenge. All you have to do is click a button to pause it, and click another button to start it back up whenever you’d like.

    But we do recommend signing up now, because we’re offering some never-before-seen discounts…
  • We’re really busy! How much time will it take?
    5-20 minutes!

    We know you’ve got a packed schedule which is why you only need to commit a few minutes a day to the challenge.

    That’s a lot less time than it takes to watch an episode of that reality TV show you’re binging or losing track of time scrolling on social media!

    That’s a lot less time than it takes to watch an episode of that horrible reality TV show you’re binging! Why not put Netflix on pause and take time to prioritize the “chill”?
  • We’re parents. This sounds fun, but we’re worried we just won’t do it.
    We totally get it. Parenting is exhausting and all-consuming. And no one wants to waste money.

    First, we’ll assure you that plenty of parents have told us they were shocked by just how doable the challenges were, and how motivated they were to continue once they started. Scroll back up to read some of their stories!

    We’ll also recommend The Connection Challenge, since the daily activities are shorter and will help you get back to feeling like teammates.

    And we’ll suggest setting a goal that feels manageable, like doing one or two challenges a week instead of one per day.

    We’ll also offer you this reframe: why not transform the inevitable pressure of Valentine’s Day into positive and impactful motivation?

    Instead of buying each other a shockingly expensive date night at that mediocre new restaurant, or the silver-plated jewelry that still somehow stains your skin blue…

    What if you instead leaned into your curiosity and said “Yes!” to something that’s catered to what your relationship truly needs right now?

    Because you’re not just parents.

    You’re partners who were once hopelessly, madly in love and lust with each other. (And yes, that honeymoon phase energy is just a tap away.)

    Plus, just think of what a huge impact it could have on your kids to see their parents modeling what a healthy relationship should be! Kids pick up on everything. If you’re having a hard time doing this for yourselves, do it for them.

    And finally, we’ll remind you that this year we’re offering never-before-seen deals, and that you’re protected by our five-day money-back guarantee!
  • Is this for LGBTQ+ couples, too?
    Absolutely. Inclusivity is one of our core company values. The challenges are specifically designed to be gender-neutral.
  • Do we have to have sex every day?

    The Connection Challenge doesn’t involve sex at all.

    The Sex Challenge has both sensual and sexual activities to choose from, but it’s not just intercourse. In fact, you can do the entire challenge without having intercourse!
  • Can we do it if we’re long-distance?
    The Connection Challenge can easily be done long-distance! Schedule a regular FaceTime date and use the challenge to bond when you can’t be together physically. If you’re a military couple or juggling different time zones, you can each keep a journal and review the challenges when you’re able to connect.

    The Sex Challenge has to be done in-person, but you can save up the challenges to do during the times you’re together!
  • Can you give an example of a challenge?
    Half of the fun of the challenge is not knowing what you're going to be doing that day, so we don't give away examples because we don't want to ruin the surprise!

    Instead, we do something better: we offer a five-day money-back guarantee.

    You can try the challenge for five whole days to make sure you love it. If you're not having fun and feeling more connected after five days, we'll refund you every penny — no questions asked.
  • How do I give this as a gift?
    The challenges make the PERFECT Valentine’s Day gift.

    Here’s how it’ll work: You’ll enter your partner’s email address at checkout, but only you (the purchaser) will receive a confirmation email after you sign up for the challenges.

    The Sweet or Spicy event will start on Valentine’s Day morning. So, you and your partner will both get your first email challenges on the 14th.

    If you don’t want your partner to receive their challenge email on the 14th, or you want to wait to start the challenges until after Valentine’s Day, hit the “pause” button in your confirmation email — this will pause the challenges and keep your partner from receiving anything. They won’t receive any emails until you hit “unpause” (you’ll receive an additional email with an “unpause” link once you’ve paused the challenge).

    If you sign up for both challenges, you’ll get The Connection Challenge email challenges first.

    Want a cute gift certificate to give along with your gift? There will be a link in your confirmation email to check out our festive gift certificate options to give your partner!

(Try it risk-free through February 19th!)

“This all sounds great, but we just don’t have the time.”
We’ve been in this business long enough to know that the average couple reading over this page will think to themselves, “We’ll do it another time, when things are less busy.” 

But let’s be honest… life has always been busy. You’ve never had a time where you’ve said to each other, “Hey, we have tons of free time! What should we do with it?” 

There’s a reason you started scrolling this page in the first place. 

You’re feeling disconnected, and you already know that waiting for things to magically change on their own is only creating more disconnection. 

You’re only digging yourselves into a deeper and deeper hole that’s going to be harder and harder to crawl out of. 

We know it’s so easy to get swept up in the busyness of your day-to-day life. 

Before you know it, another year has gone by and you’re feeling more disconnected than ever. 

That’s why we want to invite you to be one of the extraordinary couples who are willing to take action now. 

Show yourself and your partner that your relationship is important, and that you’re willing to devote just a few minutes a day to feel like a true team!
Picture It...
One month from now, you’re curled up with your partner, thinking about all the exciting new things you did together and learned about each other. 

You’re discussing which activities were your favorites, and laughing about that one thing you didn’t expect to like so much. (And flirting about the activities you want to try again tonight...) 

You’re feeling like yourselves again! 

You’re even noticing more small moments of intimacy throughout the day. Your partner grazing your back when they pass by you at home. Stopping to give you a kiss before they leave the room. Taking that extra moment to look into your eyes before they say goodnight. 

There’s electricity in the air. 

And you’ve changed too. You feel more confident, more relaxed, and more alive. People around you are noticing. Your friends keep asking you if you cut your hair or got a facial because you’re glowing

Before the challenge, you were always fixated on the past. Resentful of how effortless intimacy used to feel. Scared by how much more complicated it had gotten. 

Now, you’re endlessly grateful for the present moment, and actually excited about the future… 

This can be what life looks like for you! 

But it all starts with a choice that only you can make. 

You could let another month fly by in the blink of an eye, and find yourself stuck in the exact same spot you’re in right now. 

Or you could spend it feeling more emotionally and physically connected than ever before!
Invest in your love by joining Sweet or Spicy today!
(Your relationship is worth it, don’t you think?)

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